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She Owes You Nothing

Saturday night was a joyous night at the pub. Busy, and for the most part everyone was friendly and happy, but there were a few exceptions.

Story 1

There is a regular who comes in most nights who none of us really like. He is very arrogant, and his favourite line is "I'm always right", and he truly believes he is. He also gets very drunk sometimes which makes him even worse, but so far hasn't actually done anything to get himself barred (if we barred everyone who thought they were right all the time we'd go out of business). But Saturday night he was sailing pretty close to the wind.

A group of ladies came in and were sat at the end of the bar. They are all local, and one of them has recently just divorced her husband. The regular, whom I shall refer to as A seemed to know this as well and started sending drinks down to their party, for all of them at first, but later on he bought a bottle of champagne and went down to share it with her because "She needed to get back on the horse". She obviously wasn't interested and was polite about it, agreeing to have a glass of the champagne with him, but like I said, I know A, so I kept an eye on things. Sure enough, A started arguing how this lady owed him because he had bought her drinks, and lets not forget, he is ALWAYS right. ALWAYS (/sarcasm). Seriously, the guy was acting like an utterly misogynistic dinosaur, his whole argument being that if she drank something he bought then he was entitled to have sex with her. I thought at one point I was going to have to intervene, but luckily even though he was very vocal about the issue he did back off when the lady made it quite clear she thought he was a prick, refused to drink the remainder of her glass of champagne and left him with the rest of the bottle to himself. He retreated to the other end of the bar where he had a front row seat of her proceeding to leave with another guy she met that night. He got a warning from my boss over his behaviour, thrown out for the night and told one more stunt like that he will be out on his ear for good. Personally I'd have barred him anyway, but he didn't touch her and she just laughed at him, so my boss let him off. I will cheer the day he does actually get barred.

Story 2

The second story took place after I had finished, but I found out about it the next day. My boss finished at 11pm, leaving the assistant manager to do last orders at 12am. I finished at 11.30pm, when it had gotten pretty quiet, just a few regulars left plus some residents we had had over the weekend. The residents had been a bit annoying the night before, they are from the south of England and think we people in the North should run things like they do. Like stay open till the early hours so they could drink. News flash: We are a small country pub, it wouldn't be worth opening till then as we'd have no customers, so last orders is 12am. So that's when it was called. Now the assistant manager is wonderful. She is young, but very good at her job, doesn't take crap from anyone and is normally very professional. But it got to 1.30 am and despite not being served any alcohol the party of residents would just not go up to their rooms. We aren't talking just a couple of them, the party consisted of about 10 guys, all of whom stayed downstairs chatting despite her asking them to please clear the bar. Eventually one of the older guys started telling her how we should be running things again and she kind of lost it. She came out with "Will you please just go upstairs so I can close up, you are doing my head in." This did actually get them to go upstairs, but the guy she had said it to started telling her she was very unprofessional and bad at her job, and they wouldn't be coming back here ever again, and she ended up very upset when she got home.

Now nothing was said to my boss the next morning when he did breakfast for them, and they happily paid up and left. And my boss even told the assistant manager he wasn't angry with what she said, that he understood, but she's still beating herself up about it. She handled it with far more patience than I would have!

Bonus Suck

I went to the cinema on my own the other day as I was bored on my day off and my bf was at work. I didn't realise however that a lone female in a cinema is an invite for assholes to make loud jokes about me being fat, single and desperate whilst trying to watch said movie. Thankfully a nice usher made the lads doing it leave after various complaints about them.

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2013-01-30 01:20 pm (UTC) (Link)

Story #1 - I'm glad that the woman in this story not only laughed at the guy who bought the bottle of champagne, but also wound up leaving with another guy.

Story #2 - I don't think that the assistant manager did/said anything wrong. I think she handled the situation better than I would have. If the customers in question didn't say anything to your manager the next morning when they were being served breakfast, and if your manager wasn't angry about what she said, then she's in the clear/OK.


2013-01-30 01:52 pm (UTC) (Link)

I must admit we all laughed too when she left with someone else.


2013-01-30 10:46 pm (UTC) (Link)

all this

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2013-01-30 01:51 pm (UTC) (Link)

I can handle him. We had a bit of a set to a few weeks back and now we just ignore each other unless he is ordering something, but he knows I don't take crap from him.


2013-01-30 02:07 pm (UTC) (Link)

Hey, most southerners aren't like that ;) I worked in a pub in the village I grew up in in Hampshire for 5 years, and since there was a fancy hotel nearby we would get a lot of the staff showing up after their shifts trying to get us to serve them... At midnight or 1am! We would sometimes still have the lights on/people finishing meals at that point (if it was a big party) but we definitely never served alcohol after 11, and yet somehow every weekend these people would show up....


2013-01-30 04:45 pm (UTC) (Link)

Oh I know not all are like that. My sister lives about 40 miles away from where this group had come from and none of her family would dream of being like that. There is a small minority though which give southerners a bad name.

I can't believe those hotel staff would do that every week, talk about not getting it through their skulls.


2013-01-30 02:51 pm (UTC) (Link)

I go to the cinema on my own all the time and it drives me NUTS when people are disruptive there. Also what a bag of dicks :| How is watching a film desperate?

Edited at 2013-01-30 02:51 pm (UTC)


2013-01-30 07:09 pm (UTC) (Link)

I worked in a cinema in my younger days, it was the bane of my working life. Some people didn't get if you didn't like the movie then leave, don't ruin it for everyone else


2013-01-30 04:06 pm (UTC) (Link)

How many Fawlty Towers jokes do you get? (There's another one right there, sorry)

The woman in #1 should have poured the remainder of her glass in the jerk's lap.

Wtf is with the idiots in the theater? Are we really still like that?? There is hope though... I notice in my daughter's generation (17-18 years old), nobody cares if you have glasses/braces/acne/extra weight.


2013-01-30 06:22 pm (UTC) (Link)

In fact, glasses and braces have been glamorized. My 5 & 8 year olds wish they HAD glasses and braces. I had to have both at age 12 and it was horrible. I'm glad they don't think it's a bad thing but I also wish they wouldn't wish for it themselves.


2013-01-30 06:24 pm (UTC) (Link)

There will always be the Haves and Have Nots :/


2013-01-30 10:13 pm (UTC) (Link)

I begged for braces from ages ten to thirteen, because my teeth were horribly skewed - one canine was out in a row all of its own up front. Parents eventually figured it wasn't going to go back into place on its own, resulting braces were agonising but worth it :) I don't think I've ever encountered anyone wanting braces for the sake of braces, though.


2013-01-30 10:45 pm (UTC) (Link)

Yup, growing up it was all the rage in my schools too AND it was considered prestigious as it was very expensive. And the coolest could get you out of class. OH. and the little pieces of wax, what we wouldn't do for some wax to chew on (and we'd beg the brace wearer for some). i'm serious.


2013-01-31 12:14 am (UTC) (Link)

I had braces for 3.5 years, and I wish I hadn't. They pulled 3 baby teeth to put them on in the first place, which...I don't know how you know it won't correct itself when the adult teeth aren't even THERE yet. They pulled my front tooth down too far so they don't match, and my teeth are now so close together that they're turning sideways (the ones that were there, and straight, when I was little) to make room for themselves. Ugh. It was total crap. I wish they'd at least let me get to the point where I wanted them like you.


2013-01-31 02:47 am (UTC) (Link)

They can tell from your x rays. They can see your adult teeth forming in your jaw underneath your baby teeth, and can predict where they'll be coming in.

Over half my baby teeth were pulled. I don't have many distinct memories of actually naturally losing teeth. I also had 2 adult premolars removed from my upper jaw because of space concerns (and that same day I had 4 baby teeth removed as well - that was the day I developed a firm hatred of the dentist!)

Also, I hear if you want your teeth to remain perfectly straight, you have to put your retainer in at least once a week for ever. A couple of mine skewed a little over the years, too, especially on the bottom which is more crowded because they didn't remove any permanent teeth.


2013-01-31 03:12 am (UTC) (Link)

Once a week?! I have to put mine in every night or the suckers go right back to where they were!


2013-01-31 03:20 am (UTC) (Link)

How long has it been since you finished? Some people's teeth move easier than others, and they need to wear it more, I guess. It's been almost 10 years for me, and I haven't worn a retainer in forever. My teeth are pretty much staying where they're at now, but they're not perfectly straight like they were right when I got my braces off. I should've kept wearing the thing if I wanted that :/ but my ortho told me I could quit wearing it after 2 years, so I did. Liar.


2013-01-31 04:55 am (UTC) (Link)

I was preparing for braces when I was 14. My pre-orthodontia xrays showed that I only had three wisdom teeth, the fourth never formed, and the three were all positioned at about a 45-degree angle under the jawline. If they'd been allowed to erupt naturally, they would have thrown my teeth right back out of alignment, so I had to have them surgically removed before I could have my braces put on.

It's been about 15 years since I finished my orthodontia, and over that time my lower front teeth have gotten crooked and crowded again. Overall my teeth still look better than they did 25 years ago, though, so I'm not complaining too much.


2013-01-31 08:36 pm (UTC) (Link)

I had braces put on at 24 and had them off at 26-27. My two front teeth were pretty crooked and bottom row was ok, but not in a good position. My wisdom teeth were removed at 17 and 20 due to coming in at an angle and impacting my molars. However, I ended with ALL FOUR bicuspids (the ones directly after the canines) out before the braces went on the day after Christmas. That sucked, going back to work the next day with chipmunk cheeks due all of the gauze in there. The little kids thought it was cool when their parents asked what was wrong, though. ;)

Teeth are now mostly straight still, but after being pregnant and morning sickness (anything in my mouth triggered a gag reflex for most of first and third trimesters both pregnancies), I finally put the retainers back in the other day to sleep in. 4 ibuprofen later, I was finally able to get to sleep, but DAMN. That hurt because the teeth had moved. So I get to wear those for a while now it looks like instead of my mouth guard.


2013-01-31 01:24 am (UTC) (Link)

I was about 11 and I begged for braces after the dentist said 'she doesnt need them desperatly but if she/you want them then you can'

I could have done without. I didn't think they'd hurt. The boy I liked had them.


Yeh, it was the worst 3 years. Agony almost daily. Didn't even make much difference!


2013-02-01 10:59 pm (UTC) (Link)

I *wish* my parents figured it out. I ended up getting braces at 22 because they never took me to the dentist :(


2013-01-30 05:44 pm (UTC) (Link)

Considering my stock response in #2 was "Sup up and fuck off, I want to go to bed" she handled it waaaaaaay better than I would.

Then again the bar I used to work in a has a huge reputation w/r/t it's clientele which is probably why I got away with it for six years >.>

Off topic, but


2013-01-30 10:05 pm (UTC) (Link)

OMG TRAP DOOR! I loved that so much :D:D:D


2013-01-31 12:39 am (UTC) (Link)

What's w/r/t?


2013-01-31 01:01 am (UTC) (Link)

W/R/T = With regards to, I believe.


2013-01-31 02:23 pm (UTC) (Link)

With Reference To


2013-01-30 08:19 pm (UTC) (Link)

his whole argument being that if she drank something he bought then he was entitled to have sex with her

Ugh ugh ugh. That line of thinking is actually pretty damn scary...


2013-01-31 12:27 am (UTC) (Link)

This is why I refuse to accept drinks from guys I don't know at bars. They might be perfectly harmless and are just trying to be nice or whatever, but they also might be like the douchebag in this post and expect me to go home with them, and I reeeally don't like being in that position. Even when I'm flanked by a group of my girlfriends, it can be very intimidating.


2013-01-31 05:46 pm (UTC) (Link)

Accepting a drink =/= payment for sleeping with you!


2013-01-31 07:05 am (UTC) (Link)

My first thought was "dude, if you basically think all women are literally whores, you are drastically misinformed about going rates."

That aside, though--yeah, SCARY. There's multiple reasons I don't go anywhere near bars, and that's one of them.


2013-01-31 10:57 am (UTC) (Link)

1st sentence: mte!! xD


2013-01-31 05:47 pm (UTC) (Link)

No kidding! Cheapskate, lol.


2013-01-30 11:04 pm (UTC) (Link)

I didn't realise however that a lone female in a cinema..

I very quickly learned that being a lone female pretty much anywhere seems like an invite for jerks. Alone drinking at a bar? You're obviously looking for a one-night stand. Same goes for a club. Only female working in an otherwise all male job, you're either lesbian or easy or both. :\


2013-01-30 11:29 pm (UTC) (Link)

I wonder if that last thing is why I am so tacitly avoided when I go out alone. o.o

I'm sorry to hear they were such a bunch of dicks, but it was nice the usher made them leave.


2013-01-31 06:09 am (UTC) (Link)

Number one is basically trying to treat the lady as a prostitute. Brought her something, aka spent money, equals automatic sex that she can't say no to. Wonder if he could be gotten for solicitation. *wishful thinking*


2013-01-31 07:05 pm (UTC) (Link)

A prostitute would cost way more than the price of a drink/bottle of champagne. (I'm thinking at least a few hundred bucks.) Cheap-ass bastard.


2013-01-31 01:44 pm (UTC) (Link)

Number one is a complete fuckwalrus and I hope you never have to deal with him again, OP.